Saturday, April 28, 2012

Graham's Memorial Water Garden

Five years ago Graham did a lot of work for my husband and me in a section of our back yard.  A few months later this section of our yard became Graham's memorial garden.  I posted pictures of Graham and a poem that I wrote about this earlier on this blog -
http://amotherstears.blogspot.com/2010/05/with-us-in-spirit.html

Last week Graham's memorial garden became even more special.  We had it transformed into a beautiful water garden with the addition of two lovely waterfalls and a koi pond.  The azalea bushes, day lilies, and phlox that were originally planted are all still there, they were just rearranged.  We are delighted with this water feature!  Graham always thought a pond would be nice to have in our yard.  He also liked the idea of having koi fish.  What a wonderful, healing connection this is with Graham.  It is an oasis of solace for us.

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Thursday, April 12, 2012

We had our house built and moved to Fredericksburg in April of 2005, 7 years ago. One of the first things that Graham did when we moved in was to plant several of his apple trees in our back yard. As part of a Biology class project his senior year in high school Graham had to grow something. He decided to plant the seeds from an apple that he ate for this project. Graham took care of these seeds in the Biology lab at his high school. Amazingly, they grew. They looked like twigs when he brought them home at the end of the year. They stayed in pots for the following year until we moved to our new home. This is a picture of Graham in April of 2007 pruning one of his trees. The trees had never bloomed. Graham died 5 months after this picture was taken. The following spring his apple trees had blossoms for the first time! Now it is April 2012. Look at this same tree now. It is 8-10 feet tall and covered with blooms! Who could have realized what a precious gift these trees would turn out to be? Thank you, Graham. You are always with us. We love you.

Friday, April 6, 2012

I Hear You



I Hear You

I can hear you in silence,
Or in confusion and noise,
I hear you now and forever,
In life’s tragedies and joys.

I listen for you always,
 Although I cannot see,
Your physical self as before,
When you were here with me.

You speak to me in whispers,
In thoughts that cross my mind,
Or in flashes of inspiration,
With words that flow and rhyme.

Your signs and validations,
The messages I receive,
Ignite my creative energies,
And help me as I grieve.

Love is never ending,
Our bodies are only form,
You are teaching this important lesson,
For those of us who mourn.

With your partnership in spirit,
I am finding solace for my pain,
Love is always the answer,
 The destination for us to aim.

You are a blessing beyond measure,
My treasured son and friend,
You show that crossing over,
Does not mean a relationship ends.

Love is like a circle,
In joy we both will fly,
We are bonded forever,
Because a soul can never die.



Monday, April 2, 2012

Message From My Computer

 This is a write up I did a few days ago for the Facebook group "Signs From Our Loved Ones" - https://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/.  This is a very helpful, supportive group for those who are grieving the loss of a loved one.
Wow! I believe that I just had another wonderful message from my son, Graham.  This time it was on my computer!   It brought me to tears.  Graham's birthday is tomorrow.  I am so grateful, especially at this bittersweet time, that he is showing his continued presence and love in my life.   I double clicked on my computer to wake it up and this picture is what appeared on the screen from the Angels Across the USA Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/angelsacrosstheusa.  This design is made of pictures of Graham for a slide show that Angels Across the USA is presenting during their 2012 tour events. I wasn't on their Facebook page today, and would have had to search for their page and then search for Graham's slide among the many they have there to find it.  I am amazed. What a wonderful gift!